As a book blogger (who quite honestly struggles to stay on topic) it should come as no surprise that I have a passion for words way past what is sensible.
I love the way they can inspire, influence and even transport me to other worlds.
Worlds that exist only at the whim of words!
I love the way they change, I love the way they make me laugh and I sure as hell respect their power.
Books, while I love them, have been relegated to a relatively small percentage of the words we read.
They are our pleasure and escape ration. The words we read to nourish our minds, escape from our day, inspire tingles in our loins, frighten the life out of us, intrigue us, make us swoon, force tears to leak from the corners of our eyes and sometimes (God forbid), even learn.
The remaining quota of our wordy feast we absorb from an incredibly wide range of sources; which is a joy, an eye opener and sometimes a soul crushing excursion into the collective consciousness.
For this reason, I really wish that some words would disappear.
Not from existence or in an 'out of the dictionary' kind of way; retained in the lexicon but removed from requirement.
No longer in use. Kept as vintage horrors, described in museums, spoken of in hushed whispers by torchlight under covers. Bottom line, redundant.
A girl can dream.
Here is my list of words that can get lost; feel free to comment with yours!
Five Words to Dump this Year:
Vitriol: 'Burning or caustic'. In the social media age the frequent tool of the haters and opinionated. Usually utilized by those with no insight into their own impact. People who could not even imagine a world in which they might be wrong; or shudder, that there are shades of grey.
Hater: 'A person who thrives on the hate of other people or things'. Often found wielding their vitriolic weapons with careless abandon. I find this one especially awful. I mean, 'thrives on the hate'. That just gives me chills!
Clickbait: 'Misleading text or images driving web traffic': Otherwise known as 'The shocking secret Angelina kept from Brad!".
Sensationalize: 'To make sensational'. As Taylor Swift put it, 'God this is exhausting'. Can we just read what happened? Is that even a thing?
Last but by no means least in my sites for 'use based' extinction:
Intolerance: 'Unwillingness or refusal to tolerate or respect beliefs other than your own'. I know I have a theme here, but people. seriously, I think we need to take on board our Mothers wisdom.
'If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!'
So there you have it. The words that are getting under my skin.
Have you ever noticed how big changes in life loosen the hold of long held habits, opening the door to more change?
To me it seems that change casts a spell over our lives, creating a window of time where the weave that holds the fabric of our choices together relaxes just a little, releasing an energy capable of blasting through 'baked on' life norms.
My current life changing event, moving from part time to full time work (via an absolutely blissful month break) has had me thinking about change, 'impact' and 'bang for my buck'.
In my usual style I waited until the last week and a half before 'new job kick off' to start thinking about change. I asked myself a key question:
"What can I do NOW as a gift to future 'Super Busy' me to allow ease, relaxation and even more integrally, spare time into my nine to five life?"
Yes, more of my style comes in here, I really wanted to find a BOOK that would link my 'Big Change Spell' and real life action.
More specifically, I wanted a book that would help me address a 'hard to shift' life habit; otherwise known as 'the lies we tell ourselves'.
My 'hard to shift' life lie is a common one:
'I am just not an organised person'
In fact, if you went back and read over previous blog posts I bet you would find me writing this exact line (unsurprisingly I even of alluded to it in paragraph four of this post!).
What book could put me in a position to challenge this many tentacled foe?
As a believer in serendipity, I did not question when my mind latched onto a conversation with my (more organised) sister about Marie Kondo and her globally influential book about tidying.
I did not doubt that a book about tidying could help destabilize my lifelong lie. I have long believed that our thoughts create our world; so it is not much of a stretch to imagine how a dramatic improvement in our environment could alter our thoughts.
The book itself is a whirlwind of dramatic tidying advice; some of which I found quite confronting.
I mean the logistics of 'take ALL your books out of your bookshelf and put them in piles on the floor' boggles my mind. Couple that with the direction to touch all of them before deciding if they 'sparked joy' had me wondering why I had not started this project a month before. I simply did not have enough time to handle each of my belongings in a search for those that inspired a spark of joy.
Kondo is clear on this subject though; to get the true life changing benefits of tidying, it has to been done all at once. In what she terms 'A Special Event' tidy (love it).
What to do?
Being a business minded type, I thought back to my 'Bang for Buck' goal and picked three home categories to transform using Kondo's method that would deliver me the most 'Daily Life' changing impact.
The 'Bang for Buck' list:
These three would be the pioneer categories then, paving the way for the rest to come over a longer period of time.
Kondo's writing splits neatly between very specific 'how to' instructions and more whimsical passages detailing her origin story and thoughts on the impact of mindful tidying.
I found her brand of no nonsense advice and her uncompromising process, wildly motivating and completely 'doable'.
Who after all, is incapable of moving smoothly through their home deciding what to discard and where to store what remains?
Add to this a constant and reassuring theme emphasizing the magical benefits that flow from serious decluttering and you have a book that gets you off the couch and striding purposefully towards your cupboards, garbage bags in hand.
Marie Kondo shines a light on 'letting go with grace'.
In the end though, it is the results that count. After much effort and many garbage bags, much letting go and some moments of rediscovery; was it worth it?
Do I feel lightened and open to new challenges?
As I stare into my unbelievably organised and uncluttered linen press (which I have done at least eight times since finishing the process) I feel a tiny fluttering of a new idea as it enters my mind.
'My cupboard is organised.'
(Maybe then, so am I!)
While I don't think extreme 'letting go' is for everyone (at least at the outset) I can with all my heart recommend reading Kondo's book.
See the magic for yourself; and possibly (as in my case) some shelf space that is deliciously and wonderfully.... empty.
If you would like try the 'KonMari Method' her book is available from the following retailers: